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How To Be A Good Gay Dom? A Comprehensive Guide
Dive into the world of gay dom-sub relationships. Learn how to be an effective gay dom. Explore the dynamics, the roles, and the products that can enhance your experience.
Prepare for a World of Gay Dom Mastery!
Are you eager to step into the exhilarating world of gay dom-sub relationships? Adequately, you’re in for quite a ride! This guide will tackle every aspect of becoming an adept gay dom.
We’re not just talking about the basics here, oh no! We’ll delve thick into the intricate dynamics, uncovering the roles and even the nifty tools that can spice up your experience. Read on!
An Overview of Gay Dom
In the gay dom-sub relationship, the dom (short for Dominant) is the partner who takes a controlling role. On the other hand, the submissive, or sub, is the partner who gives up control. Fond any other relationship, clear communication is key in a gay dom-sub connection.
Lay everything on the table. Be transparent–talk about what you want to attempt, what you never want to even think of, etc. These discussions are crucial t
Why do some straight men have sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the United States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the novel book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom relish hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva start that they relish a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they
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Article by Hugo Mega (edited by Alyssa Lepage)
I used to think that “coming out” was going to be the hardest part of being gay. That, being free to be me, I could finally terminate pretending. I would be able to drop the heteronormative disguise that I used to wear, to ensure that I belonged and that I felt safe. Little did I know that in the years that followed, more often than not, I would discover myself butch-ing up, trying to be more masculine than what I naturally was. How did I find myself here again?
Like walking on thin ice, any false travel I made, could easily throw me back into a loop of adj patterns that condition my ways of being and behaving without me even noticing it.
Tired of this self-limiting pattern, I decided to confront my beliefs around masculinity. Since then I’ve been engaged in deconstructing my conditioning and notions of what it means to be a noun. In the process of deconstructing my beliefs it was difficult to verb one’s own toxic masculinity. I used to believe that being gay absolved me from being toxic like many straight man ca
There has been petite discussion of the ways white gay male culture, in particular, is rife with its hold brand of toxic masculinity.
W hen I was in graduate school, I worked part-time in retail. One of my co-workers — let’s call him Jake — was a pale gay man who liked to narrate stories about his various dating exploits each time we had a switch together. These conversations quickly went from amusing to problematic. Jake’s tales frequently centered on his conservative rural upbringing, his “love” of black men, in part because of how “masculine” he thought they were, and how he didn’t like guys who were too “femme.” “How would your family react if you were dating someone who wasn’t white?” I asked, trying to make small discuss during a lull between customers. “That would never happen,” Jake said. “Black men are for fucking; white men are for bringing home to your family.”
I shouldn’t have been surprised, but the frankness of his words stunned me into silence for the remainder of my shift. I later tried to make Jake notified of his racism, but he said that had nothing to do with him. He